Why Waking Down in Mutuality
works so well

for people who want a direct,
rapid path to embodied Awakening —

and what that shift can mean for your everyday living
and your one-of-a-kind purpose and contributions

Saniel Bonder & Linda Groves-Bonder

Welcome to Waking Down in Mutuality

Thank you for your interest in exploring this remarkable opportunity – to Wake Down in Mutuality! However you’ve arrived, welcome. People are visiting us here at this site from all over the world, and we’re delighted to introduce you to what we’re offering.

The evidence has been consistently showing up for nearly 20 years: time and again, this life-path or Way works amazingly well for people who seriously desire embodied spiritual Awakening. The great majority of people who engage it steadily do in fact enter stable, permanent, non-separate, deeply grounded Oneness with the great Mystery of life. Not only that, most of them do that within several months to several years.

What about you? What brings you here?

It may be a passionate yearning for your own embodied spiritual Awakening. It could just be curiosity – but it could also be a hunger at your core for something fundamental. For a new, confident depth of integrity. An unshakable connection with your essence that also puts you in touch with all of life in a deeper way. It could be all of the above.

And you might also have a desire to be in contact with other people who feel similarly. People who, among the mountains of deadening information we all get barraged with every day, are – like you – looking for real, authentic, live and enlivening connections and communication.

Whatever has attracted you, we’re confident that our growing worldwide community of Waking Down teachers, mentors, and practitioners can be of help to you. Here on this web page you’ll find:

• Ten reasons why Waking Down in Mutuality works so well for people who want to Awaken whole-bodily and live an authentic conscious life
  
  
• An invitation to register for one or more free weekly introductory 1-hour teleconference presentations on “Why Waking Down Can Work for YOU”

Waking Down in Mutuality is a whole-being transformational process that’s just come into the world in the last two decades. One of us, Saniel Bonder, is its Founding Teacher. The other, Linda Groves-Bonder, Saniel’s wife and partner, is a leading Senior Teacher of the work. There are more than 30 other certified teachers, mostly based in the U.S., many authorized mentors, and hundreds of awakening and awakened practitioners around the planet. Our commitment to mutuality extends to our teachers’ association and main educational training institute, which are collectively governed and run.

So, why exactly does Waking Down in Mutuality have such results? What allows it to help so many people who hunger to find and embody Being so directly, to actually succeed – and so fast?

Ten Reasons Why Waking Down in Mutuality Works So Well

for people who want to Awaken whole-bodily
and live an authentic conscious life

1. Waking Down in Mutuality “greenlights” every part of who you have been, are, and are becoming. The whole spirit of the Waking Down work continually says “YES!” to your whole being. It welcomes you to be here, become whole, and fulfill your optimal potential. No part of you is fundamentally wrong or bad. There is no call to fundamentally reject, resist, fear or despise even your most cut-off parts or anti-social or self-destructive tendencies.
   
   And, your most sublime potential self-awareness and expression is in many ways more shy, vulnerable, and tender than even those anti-social, cut-off qualities of self. Here all of your parts get greenlighted. Paradoxically, that deep acceptance leads not only to recognition and release, but also, over time, to conscious reconfiguration and regeneration.


2. Waking Down in Mutuality is democratic, warmly humane, pragmatic, experiential, and “sticky.” There is no pecking order in terms of personal worthiness or having your voice heard. Disrespect of others is not welcome but those who might display it get treated warmly and welcomed in humane ways to recognize and correct their course. Teachers and other leaders do not deliberately embarrass anyone. They don’t preach at or disparage people and they are accountable for their speech and actions as is everyone else. They know how to apologize and they don’t put themselves on pedestals or allow others to do that to them. When any of us make mistakes, we work things out with one another. We really do love each other a lot. And we show it.
   
   Because each one’s uniqueness is so highly valued, everyone’s approach to finding their own distinctive path is cherished. And the work is quite pragmatic. It’s both experiential and experimental. Because they are not being required to conform themselves to outward ideals, people find that the insights, transformations, and awakenings they undergo are “sticky.” They tend to last.


3. Waking Down in Mutuality is ego-friendly and ego-transcending. Yes, that’s right: both, or “both/and.” Your fundamental, individual sense of “I” or “me” gets included in this approach. You don’t have to fight to overcome it. It doesn’t get bashed or humiliated or subjected to “crazy wisdom” by teachers who assume it’s the enemy of your growth and transformation. You don’t have to “get over your (ego’s) story.” Instead, we welcome your story and all your egoic “stuff.”
   
   You may have been fighting a war against obvious limits of your seemingly false self in order to attain the limitlessness of a true Self beyond ego. As that war comes to an end, you in effect sign a peace treaty with all your parts in your heart, soul, and whole body. This includes even your most cut-off shadow material, your “broken zones” or disowned voices of self. The energy, attention, and awareness that get liberated for your further integration and your whole-being Awakeness – with your ego intact but, gratefully, no longer separate from your impersonal, transcendent yet all-inclusive essence – will be a wonderful discovery.


4. Waking Down in Mutuality is generated from the very root-source of your life and awareness. In this work, you soon recognize that the state-of-the-art evolutionary force of transformation you’re plugged into is self-activating from your own source. The living Spirit-fire of Being is like a pilot light at the heart-core of your bodily and spiritual existence. It’s as if the gas mysteriously gets turned up at that pilot light. The “Sun” of awareness at your core starts rising, becoming increasingly self-aware.
   
   The juice of the process comes from beyond your thinking mind or your will to practice effectively. It feels greater than you and yet deeply intimate to you. You then cooperate with this core-generated power that’s changing you from within. It’s much more like flowing downstream in a river than like a climber heroically ascending the vertical face of a high mountain peak.


5. Waking Down in Mutuality is transmission-activated. Most spiritual practices rely heavily on your capacity to practice primarily by dint of intention and will – even if the goal is surrender to some form of grace. This work relies most in the early phases on your receiving and metabolizing the transmission of the Awakened condition, principally from awakened Waking Down teachers.
   
   Their very presence tends to “turn up the gas at the pilot light” in your own essential core. You may also find this activating transmission in various teachers’ writings, audio recordings, and videos. More and more, it’s coming alive in and among community members, especially when they gather, even virtually, to explore and celebrate this Way of living.


6. Waking Down in Mutuality is NOT cookie-cutter, regimented, hierarchical, or dissociative. Linda likes to say, “This is not a cookie-cutter process!” It’s not one-size-fits-all, so that everyone does the same practices. It’s uniquely tailored to each individual. The teachers are happy to advise but they will not tell you what to do. There are no strict regimens, dress codes, dietary restrictions, required disciplines, required ways of speaking and acting, and so on.
   
   While the functional advancement of teachers and others is recognized and put to use, there is no assumption of anyone’s existential, hierarchical superiority. Dissociation and alienation are generally viewed as symptoms of spiritual bypassing. But people are not made wrong for manifesting such symptoms. They’re greenlighted, held, supported, and helped to feel deeper and open into real mutual respect.


7. Waking Down in Mutuality is Matter-positive, body-positive, and Earthly life-positive as well as Spirit-positive. We see Matter as being equally real, divine, and important as Spirit. Waking “Down” involves coming into a fusion of Spirit and Matter, and of instinct and intelligence. It also involves a quality of embodiment that, so many of us have discovered, you have to experience to really appreciate. It’s just so deep and unexpected, it can’t really be described.
   
   For thousands of years much advanced spirituality has been built upon and perpetuates a Spirit/Matter split or chasm in human consciousness and character. Even today, if you listen closely to their teachings, many of the most awakened and life-positive spiritual leaders are still trying to negotiate an uneasy truce with Matter from the Spirit side of that split. Waking Down in Mutuality is radically Matter-positive. It greenlights our animal nature as much as our spiritual refinement. It’s body-positive and profoundly positive about Earth, the biosphere, and our earthly lives.


8. Waking Down in Mutuality is a welcoming melting pot from the Global Living Lineage of spirituality – where something new is always cooking! People have come into Waking Down, and continue to, from many different schools, traditions, lineages and teachings. Practitioners are encouraged to love and respect the real gifts they’ve received in the past – and those from whom they have received them. We honor the traditions and teachers that have preceded us and made our Way possible. We also honor that we are the beneficiaries of sacrifices that millions of dedicated people worldwide have made for the sake of wisdom and the betterment of all.
   
   Still, we are not constrained by being beholden to any tradition other than that of truth, love, and service to all. Our Way diverges from its predecessors in ways we’re pointing to here. As one great scientist said of his own innovations several hundred years ago, if we see far, it’s because we’re standing on the shoulders of giants. As inheritors of the Global Living Lineage, our emergent tradition is also a kind of melting pot. And we feel we honor our predecessors best by letting whatever we are, transform or cook into whatever it can best become.


9. Waking Down in Mutuality is you-centric and us-centric, not tradition-centric, doctrine-centric, or teacher-centric. Part of the newness of the tradition we are establishing is a different centeredness. So many of the old ways teach people to cherish elements of tradition, doctrines, shrines, special objects and artifacts, or living and dead teachers much more than themselves and one another.
   
   Waking Down is aspirant-centric – it invites you to hold yourself as the most precious dimension of the whole Way, for you. And it invites you also to hold as precious the “We” space you have with all of us as your fellow practitioners, teachers, and leaders. It doesn’t make a fetish of any teacher, any sacred object or text, any special place or teaching, but only values all of these as servants of the real human beings who together comprise this wonderful emerging community.


10. Waking Down in Mutuality is an unstoppable, bio-spiritually natural evolutionary event. Once the Sun in your heart is activated, not even your most broken zones can prevent it from rising. They cannot prevent your full, bio-spiritual, awakened wholeness and unique purpose from coming front and center in your life.
    
    You may have thought or been trained to think of yourself as a small, somewhat miserable, spiritually impoverished ego struggling to climb the great Mountain to spiritual awakening and freedom. In Waking Down in Mutuality, you begin to realize that this is a terribly inaccurate view. The process itself changes your mind – about you and about everyone. You realize that you are part of a great Event in nature – that the Sun in your heart-core is truly rising and nothing can stop it – that you are that Sun, you are that Event – and that we are all here for a grand, cooperative evolutionary transformation in service to all Life.

An invitation to register for a free teleseminar on
“Why Waking Down Can Work for YOU”

It’s not possible to explain all these points in depth here. In fact, we hope that what you’ve encountered here will stimulate you to learn more about Waking Down in Mutuality and get more complete answers for any questions all this brings up.

One way you can do that is by joining one or more of our free weekly 1-hour teleseminar discussions of why this Way can work for you. Each teleseminar features a brief presentation by one or both of us on how Waking Down in Mutuality works so well, as well as more on why, and includes practical information on what learning and practicing this work entails. Each week we feature one or more awakened teachers, mentors, or practitioners as guest speakers. We take questions and also inform you a bit on upcoming Waking Down events and offerings in our various regional communities as well as online.

2012 teleseminars, live with
Saniel Bonder, Linda Groves-Bonder and guests

1. Wednesday, February 8, 12 noon - 1 pm Pacific Standard Time (PST)
   “The Secret Synergy of Waking, Down, and Mutuality as Direct Gateways into Your Evolutionary Divine Humanity”


2. Wednesday, February 15, 12 noon - 1 pm PST
   “The Core Wound/Wellness Mystery and How Understanding It Can ‘Greenlight’ Your Healing of the Spirit/Matter Split”


3. Friday, February 24, 6 - 7 pm PST
   “The Amazing Differences That This Heart-Transmission Can Make for YOU”


4. Thursday, March 8, 6 - 7 pm PST
   “Core WDM Transitions: the Second Birth and the White Heat or 'Great Fusion'”


5. Monday, March 26, 4 - 5 pm PST
   “Conscious Embodiment and Character Development: WDM Perspectives”


6. Wednesday, April 4, 4 - 5 pm PST
   “The Spirit/Matter Split: Our Species-Wide Predicament of Hypermasculine Dissociation”


7. Friday, April 13, 6 - 7 pm PST
   “You Matter: The Magic of Mutual Listening”


8. Friday, April 20, 6 - 7 pm PST
   “Integrity and Perseverance in Embodied Conscious Life”


9. Monday, April 30, 4 - 5 pm PST
   “When Down Is Up: Reframing the Dark and the Negative”


10. Wednesday, May 9, 4 - 5 pm PST
    “The Gifts That Daring Can Give to Self-Understanding”


11. Thursday, May 17, 6 - 7 pm PST
    “On 'Rotting' into a Core-Generated Way of Living”


12. Wednesday, May 30, 2 - 3 pm PST
    “Different Paths, Different Peaks -- and Different Transmissions between Different Dharmas”


13. Tuesday, Jun 5, 12- 1 pm PST
    “Why Consciousness Work Can Be So Important”


14. Thursday, Jun 14, 12 - 1 pm PST
    “When It's No Longer Appropriate to Greenlight a Shadow Issue”

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